Thursday, September 28, 2006
PHEW....Took back my FUNCTIONAL writing todae, to my fellow classmates who is reading pls keep ur trap shut abt my 22/30 coz i dun wanna let the WAYANGS noe abt it....YUP i on my track to passing english and wat worries me most is my essay coz it will affect my final GRADES... and tmr is the returning of my HCL paper and i hope i can do welll lor....
BrandanBRA posted at 9:13 PM
Wednesday, September 27, 2006
OKAY then , i m HAPPY todae or shld i say exhilarated coz i got an A1 for geography thanks to the addition of 6 marks for every1 across the level and that is like a free 2 grades improvement lor... when i actually received my essay results, i was utterly disappionted coz i only managed an A2... But when i heard the BUT from mrs goh;s mouth, i knew something good is gonna happen...and it did....Now, i truly believe that my GOD is a GOD of abundance and gives me more marks than i ever need for all my subjects and i really OWE my results to my teachers, GOD and myself...I really wanna do well for O's too....YA and todae i met SALLy to TRADE papers for humanities and when i saw the CEDAR paper, i was SHOCKED at its complicity and difficulty coz the SBQ was like WOW (no wonder they were the top combined humanities school last yr)...LOOKS like my A1 for combines humanities is nothing as compared to the CEDAR paper and i gonna work triply hard to match those ppl that are much better than me out there and SHINE in the MARKETPLACE...........
BrandanBRA posted at 9:30 PM
Tuesday, September 26, 2006
PRELIMS
FINALLY< i got almost all my results and everthing now hinges on my L1 in which my R5 is either a 5 or 6 depending on which language i gonna use for my L1....OKAY, i gotta admit that 4-10 is a wonderful class filled wif smart and intelligent ppl except for a few exceptions of dumb ppl like BRANDAN CHEN XIANWEN/ ME.......almost every1 is aiming for at least a B in english, unlike me, on the verge of failing thanks to my ROJAK style essay filled wif discussive content and narrative which is surely gonna pull my averge and my L1 down like mad.....I really hope my HCL will do better despite the hiccups in paper 2 .....I guess i will start blogging seriously when all my results come back coz wateva i m blogging now is juz simply my freaking lousy results which makes me feel lousy when i compare them wif the triple sciences.....
BrandanBRA posted at 9:05 PM
Monday, September 25, 2006
PRELIMS
OKAY...another day of receiving my results, BIO 83, combined humans 63/75 coz essay haven't get back yet, A2 for add maths, .....i GUess i can say goodbye to VJC le, but i shan't give up.... anyway, i m too lazy to blog further.... anyway, HAPPY BDAE BRANDAN....U have disappionted urself as usual on ur BDAES by screwing up all ur subjs
BrandanBRA posted at 9:37 PM
Sunday, September 24, 2006
PRELIM
Hmm..Tom results release day 2 and i m freaking nervous as usual... i think the school purposely put all the killer subj tmr, i doubt my results would be good.....thats all for todae...
BrandanBRA posted at 6:43 PM
PRELIM
Hmm..Tom results release day 2 and i m freaking nervous as usual... i think the school purposely put all the killer subj tmr, i doubt my results would be good.....thats all for todae...
BrandanBRA posted at 6:43 PM
Thursday, September 21, 2006
Hmm..........TMR i gonna get my results back....I m so nervous...........i dunno wat to blog...so that all
BrandanBRA posted at 9:15 PM
Wednesday, September 20, 2006
PRELIMS
FINALLY............Prelims are over and i gonna go back to my slacky self.....actually not for long, i gonna start preparing for my O lvl le...thinking of Os juz make me feel stressed up coz that gonna affect my future and which JC i gonna get to.......But i think i GONNA trust m,yself this time that i screwed up my prelims horribly.....let me analyse subj by subj....ENGLISH-I think i gonna score a hat-trick for FAILING ENGLISH FOR 3 CONSECUTIVE PRELIMS.........Higher Chinese-Paper 1 was alrite, but to think they actually attempted to massacre the HCL students on the last paper which the comprehension was so tough (most prob B4) Biology- SCREWED up my Practical liao which is like 20% of the total paper, plus i did not reali MUG the FYS which half the Qns came out from (most prob B3) Chemistry- only a miracle could revive my falling chemistry grades lor coz i got A2 in term 1, B3 in term 2, B4 in prelim 1, C6 in prelim2 so if i follow the number pattern (D7 is my grade lor) Combined Humanities- okay, i surrender for the first time in my life, i so not gonna get an A1 coz i did not complete my SS paper and i wrote crap for like all the SBQ Qns (B3 most prob) GEOGRAPHY- Mrs Goh actually said i screwed up my POPULATION Qn in which i believe i did , crippled wif the super tough MCQ (B4 most prob) E-Maths- the 4eva fluctuating Subj of my life A2 for term 1, B4 for term 2, A2 for prelim1 and C5 for prelim3, so i guess i gonna hit an A2 this term....ADD maths- the most HATED subj of my life...as for the grades NO COMMENTS (most prob A2)...so my L1R5 will be OPPs 18 pts, look like my fate is wif SRJC or TPJC hope those JCs welcome me .........
BrandanBRA posted at 9:05 PM
Wednesday, September 06, 2006
OMG.....i had a very bad day guiding some pri school kids todae, firstly they are irritating and cannot keep their trap shut during the guide,,secondly, they fight during the guide, WAT A BUNCH OF SPOILT BRATS coming from a social home...AND it was the longest walk of my whole guiding career coz i nvr walked so far in a single guiding trip at all, i think i covered like 9km todae.....BUT that is not the end, still gotta pick a team that really behaved well during he guide but i simply could not find any team that deserved the prize so i picked my most hated colour which is YELLOW... and i have to confes, it is the very first time i had to guide at the HSBC treetop walk and i simply got no experience at all lor....then i managed to get alomost all the plants rite thanks to the internet, but nevertheless, i think i did a great job in guiding them todae coz all my knowledge of plants suddenly flooded back to my mind durinthe guide and i actually impressed those teachers.....
BrandanBRA posted at 10:02 PM
Monday, September 04, 2006
OMG....STEVE irwin died todae ...and noe wat he was killed by a freaking sting ray.....i would nvr expect it to happen as stingray is one of my FAV food, now that it killed a man, i swear i would not list it as my FAV foos and abstain it for 1 yr....and regarding the COMEX )^ fair at EXPO, i spent quite a lot.....
THE MARITAL PYRAMID
Law #1 HEALTHY idividuals make happy marriages
Law #2 Marriage is an EMOTIONAL MAGNIFIER
a) LOVE is a big manifying glass.
We all carry emotional baggages into a relationship. Love magnifies or bring out old emotional wounds and baggages that you may or may not notice until u get into a relationship.
Whateva emotional hurts, fears or insecurities you have hidden in ur heart will come to the surface in the marriage. That is why the best gift u can bring into a marriage is a healthy emotion.Marriage is not simply about finding the right partner - its abt being the right partner YOURSELF!!!
b)Love creates the emotional safety for old hurts and wounds to surface- for the purpose of being HEALED.....
c) The closer u get to ur spouse, the more ur ols repressed feelings will surface.
Law #3 COMMUNICATION is the key to a happy marriage relationship....
MARITA PYRAMID
BASE (layer 1) : Individual EMOTIONAL AND MENTAL HEALTH..
4 significant personality difficulties
A) ASOCIAL -- Withdrawn; emotionaly shutdown
B) AVOIDANT -- SHy and dislike contact with unfamiliar ppl
C) ANTI-SOCIAL -- Hostile to the community as a whole
D) DEPENDENT -- An excessive dependence on a spouse
Layer #2 COMMUNICATION skills.
Layer #3 CONFLICT management
Layer #4 ( the tip of the pyramid or the ULTIMATE GOAL of marriage) INTIMACY
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UNDERSTANDING UR EMOTIOANLA PROGRAMMING
EAch od us has an emotional programming from our past that prevents us from loving , and being loved the way we want.
YOUR EMOTIONAL PROGRAMMING IS THE SUM OF ALL TH DECISONS YOU HAVE MADE AS A CHILD ABOUT YOURSELF< ABT OTHERS < AND ABT LOVE....
FRom birth to 5 yrs old you receive 50% of ur emotional programming
From 5 to 8 yr ols you receive another 30%
from 8 to 18 yrs old you receive another 15%
that leaves just 5% for u to learn, reevaluate and make new choices to change the other 95%!!!
YOUR uncomscious emotional programming is responsible for...............
1. The VALUE SYSTEM concerning love and relationship.
2. The AWKWARDNESS you may have in relating to ppl.
3. The way u EXPRESS LOVE to ppl, esp to ur spouse
4. The way you "PROTECT" yourself wheneva you sense u r getting hurt and disappointed.
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DYSFUNCTIONAL PARENT- CHILD RELATIONSHIP
1. LEARNED BEHAVIORS
a) ANGER
This is a HABITUA:, ABIDING anger-- not normal healthy expressions of grievance or displeasure.
Eph 4:26-27
"be angry, do not sin": do not let the sun go down on ur wrath, nor give place to the DEVIL.
b) VICTIM CONSCIOUSNESS.
"Victims" ENJOY SUFFERINGS : holding on to thier pain gives them the illusion that they have power over those who have hurt them.
c) CONTROLLING MANIPULATION>
i) A controlling parent is highly possessive and jealous
ii) A controlling parent gets hurt or upset when he or she does not get his or her own way, or feels out of control.
iii)A controlling parent is usually very domineering and critical of others.
2. SEXUAL IMMORALITY
a) SEXUAL addiction and obsession.
b) Lack of sexual INTERGRITY
3.HAS NOT GROWN UP ( ADULT ADOLESCENCE)
a) Financially irresponsible
b) UNDEPENDABLE
c) UNMOTIVATED
4. EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE.
a) ur parents cannot SHOW affection or any emotion --he is cold, distant ,aloof and stoic..
b)ur parent cannot or will not TALL abt feelings, or that he or she loves U.
c) Ur parents cannot OPEN UP or trust ppl.
5.NEGATIVE VALUE SYSTEM
a) wrong moral values eg: telling ur daugther that all MEN are bad
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2) BITTERROOT JUDGEMENT
A bitterrot judgement is a SEED of DEEP RESENTMENT that has grown into a full-blown character flaw in ur life making u do the very thing u have detested at the begining
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3) EMOTIONAL WOUNDS
a) SEXUAL TRUAMA ( sexual abuse)
Sexual abuse or truama can be commited by a family member, relative, friend, teacher,caretaker,neighbour,religious leader or stranger.And it constitutes to any 1 of the following 10 lewd acts: indecent exposure, pornography, fondling, molestation, incest, sodomy, oral sex, sexual intercourse, rape and prostitution..........
i) Difficulty to be INTIMATE wif spouse.
ii) DEPRESSION
iii) WEIGHT probelms
iv) Deviant sexual behaviors
b) PHYSICAL or VERBAL abuse.
i) LOW self esteem (Ps 64:3 and Ps 140:1, 3)
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4. Serious ANGER problems
a) Parental absence : separation, divorce, deatyh, adoption, suicide, prolonged overseas assignments
b) Parents who r EMOTIONALLY SHUTDOWN.
i) Unexpressive and non-nurturing yourself
ii) "CLINGY" possessive and over demanding of ur mate's attention.
iii) Fearful of COMMITMENT
iv) INSECURE, possessive, and full of mistrust
c) CONTROL MANIPULATION
i) NO PERSONALITY
ii) REBELLIOUS
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INNER VOWS
An inner vow is a PRE-DETERMINATION set by the mind and heart in ur childhood that will subconsciously direct ur whole adult life. ( 1 COR. 13:11)
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How to deal wif all this problems????????????????
1) CONFESS that U have a problem (1 JOHN 1:9)
2) FORGIVE those who have hurt U, esp ur parents.( Matt. 6:15 )
3) ASK GOD to forgive U for habouring resentment, bitterness and judgement towards ppl, yourself, and perhaps even GOD himself. ( Mark 11:25-26)
4) RELEASE all ur hurt to Jesus. ( 1 Pet. 5:7 )
5) Receive HEALING from, HIM. ( Luke 4:18 )
6) RECONCILE, whenever possible. ( Matt. 5:23-24 ; James 5:16)
7) make RESTITUTION, whenever possible ( LUKE 19:8 ; Eph. 4:28)
BrandanBRA posted at 10:00 PM